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#1 06-10-2018 07:28:54

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The communique was issued after the Seventh Plenary Session of the 18th Central Committee of the Communist Party of China (CPC), which was held in Beijing from Oct.11 to 14.


These historic changes and achievements indicate that China's development stands at a new historical starting point, which is of great and far-reaching significance for the cause of the Party and the country, according to the communique.


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"The country also saw major achievements in economic development and major breakthroughs in comprehensively deepening reform. Democratic and legal system construction has taken great steps. Ideological and cultural construction has made important progress. People's living standards have constantly improved," it said.


"The ecological environment has been remarkably improved. The building of a strong army has made new headway. New progress was made in work related to Hong Kong, Macao and Taiwan," it said.


China's all-round diplomacy has been in full swing and eminent achievement was registered in strict Party governance, it added.

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